Love The Way You Lie…

1. Talk WAY too much

Example: When one asks a simple question about the subject of concern, the liar will go on and on without hesitation to catch one’s breath aka they RAMBLE

2. Use reverse Psychology

EXAMPLE: The liar will reverse the conversation to reverse the roles as defendant, hence to put oneself in the role of asking the questions, rather than be the one who is suppose to answer the questions.

The liar will want the spotlight on the person that they lied to rather than, be put on the spot themselves.

The liar will flare up with anger and ask ” what about you, you ….did this ….said that…why you asking me, how about you…etc…

3. Avoid

Example: Avoid eye contact.

Avoid answering the question. ( My boss just walked in, I have to call you back)

Avoid occupying the same space (sleep on the couch rather than get into bed and have to explain why one just got in at 3am)

4. Overcompensate to make ammends ( be Extra )

Example: The liar will Be Extra nice or sexual

Give Extra

Do Extra

Say Extra

5. Do whatever it takes to be able to maintain one’s lies

Example: Call so and so if you don’t believe me. ( bluff tactic)

Or assign a wing man or women to back up one’s Lie’s.

6. Eventually get caught

7. Lie again cause they CAN

8. Doubt everyone else cause the guilty behave guilty.

9. Get Angry when called out:

Example: The liar will rant, raise hands, yell, or make a scene to difuse the accuser with intimidating behavior.

10. Prey on the weak and insecure

A liar feeds on a endless believer, forgiver, and those who do not value themselves as much as the one’s who will not stand for the repetitious nonsense.

Those who live for the liar, rather for one’s own quality of life.

In my opinion, we are all responsible for our own emotions and how we let others affect our lives.

We may not know at first what we are dealing with, therefore we are innocent and need assistance.

Once we KNOW what we are dealing with, have the knowledge, and the ability to understand the person that is lying,THEN it is up to us to stand up for ourselves.

We need to seek the help we need, make better choices for our own quality of life, and the lives we are directly responsible for.

WE ARE OF VALUE.

YOU Are of Value.

I Am of Value

As always,

Written with ❤

Mama Friday ❤

P.S. ( interesting article )

A sociopath is typically defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. A sociopath is often goal-oriented (i.e., lying is focused—it is done to get one’s way). Sociopaths have little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others. Sociopaths are often charming and charismatic, but they use their talented social skills in manipulative and self-centered ways (see lovefraud, for more on sociopaths)

https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/lying-and-deception/confronting-a-partner/compulsive-lying/types-of-liars.html

Children First!

Picking up where someone leaves off, until they can pick up again, doesn’t stop at divorce or a break up.

Not if you wish to set a good example to your child or children, on how to be a decent human being and family man/woman.

Co-parenting is about creating a successful environment for our kids so that they can be successful in life and their relationships.

We as parents are responsible for their well-being

BOTH MENTALLY AND physically…..

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The key part is to focus on your kids and forget your own desires, wants, and needs for a while.

Thank you Courtland Miller for the unwaivering support and most important; the communication. We have each others back regardless! Our Son is first. Always.

Screw ego. Screw pride. Screw anyone else who tries to screw that up 🤷🏻

A million women and men in this world so they can wait, if they don’t understand. We have ONE chance and only 18 years to SHOW our child/children, how to be a decent human being and good family man/woman.

But what do I know, I am only speaking out of 16 years of current experience , before that;18 years of dysfunctional co-parenting from my parents, and as of recently, five years education on human behavior 🤷🏻 ( Bachelor’s of Science in Psychology )

( wrote this today for my blog as a reflection of my child hood ,where things went wrong, and how awesome today was for yet another amazing co-parenting colaboration with my Son’s father and I.

As always,

Written with love,

Mama Friday ❤

Momma & Son Losing that Holiday Fat!

TC & Son’s ” Spring Back Into Shape ” Mission

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Little by Little, Son and I are making little changes to our diet, each week, and seeing excellent results already.

As we adjust to our new eating habits I thought I’d might share with all just in case someone else is in a challenge with their weight right now.

This weeks changes are:

Fresh squeezed grapefruits instead of oranges this week. Less sugar sure, but, moreover, fat burning magic in those grapefruits!

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We starting eating apples daily again.

The lemons are for cleansing. ( check my blog for more info on that one:)

Less carbs ( cut out most Pasta and most cheese for now)

So far our energy is much higher, K’s skin is clearing up:) and that little midsection we developed, is already flattening out. ( we do an ab app together often )

Son’s swimming or running along with the normal basketball activity.

Momma’s grilling meats and we cut out most fried food.

Muscle has memory so all those years we’ve put in the work together with pushups, situps, and weight work, is now already benefiting Kaenin at age 16. K’s discipline and will power, is why these changes show so swiftly for him.

I have the same exact results. Even at 46.

No matter what your age, if you sit most of the time, eat unhealthy, feed your emotions with junk,

THEN you get fat.

If you move your body more often and clean up your nutrition

THEN you will see that fat dissapear 🙂

Not Rocket Science. It is as simple as conscious, perseverant, consistent, and disciplined real EFFORT.

GREAT JOB SON!

P.S. Apple juice is for my greens and yes, Organic is better. I’m on a budget so I’ll live this week 🤷🏻

As Always Written With Love,

Mama Friday ❤

A Grandmother’s Love

A Grandmothers Love is never defined by blood.

It is action.

I dedicate this next piece to Dorothy M.Nienow (aka Gma Nienow ❤)

PhotoGrid_1523386191508Dorothy Nienow has been my stand in Mother since 1999 ( my mom passed when I was 25) and Dorothy is the only other Grandmother my Son truly knows, hands on. Gma Nienow is one of two, most amazing women I know. ( Mama Mary is the other one)

Today is about Gma Nienow cause I just saw your debut on TV! Wow! You look so  beautiful!

I just want to say that your are the epitome of what a grandmother should be. You are kind, full of joy, extremely thoughtful, supportive, caring, nonjudgmental, kind to everyone, giving, and always consistent with Kaenin.

Because of you, Kaenin understands blood isn’t always the perfect example of family, however, Constance is.

Constantly patient. Constantly encouraging. Constantly supporting. Constantingly loving. Constant dedication. Constant understanding. Constant smile. (I have never heard this woman raise her voice in 19 years!) Constant communication with exceptance of nothing in return.

Kaenin loves you because of you. Kaenin had a choice.  Kaenin always chose you. Example: if I ask him, so ,you want some amazing things for your Christmas, your Birthday, OR do you want me to fly Gma Nienow in?

Kaenin always chose you!!

GMA Nienow has been with K since day 1. Unable to travel as much now, as she used to be with us ( Gma is from Oregon ) we talk, facetime, and FB.

Gma is still busy with a full time job as a social worker, producing TV shows with her son David, assisting so many loved ones around her (as a nurse), and answering all my calls to listen to my nonsense 😅

A true Angel.

Gma flew from Oregon often and at some point, I had Mon here almost every month 😂 Thank you for Sharing David!

When Gma Nienow arrived, I became obsolete Haha!

It was all about Kaenin. I loved that! And I love you for that.

I just want you to know, Mom, that you are the best thing that ever happened to and for my Son. Thank you for Showing my Son what amazing uncondional love truly feels likes; and LOOKS like.

We miss you. We are so proud you. And I am beyond grateful that God blessed my Son with such an amazing example of what an amazing human can be like, such as his Gma Nienow.I bet Gma Juanita, in heaven, is very grateful too.

We Love You!

As always Written with Love,

Mama Friday ❤

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Toxic People Gots to Go !

One can only help toxic people so much or for so long.

We are all responsible for our own emotions.

Toxic individuals, content with their own toxic behaviors,  will never change.

We all deserve quality of life. Some just don’t want it. I sure as hell do and I shall have it regardless …only took me 46 years to learn it 😅

One thing I have learned, is people will do for THEM, until they need you, and those of us who are super giving and have empathy; are the targets. Just say NO.

And then one grow’s up mentally, makes bigger and better decisions for other humans to be in or out of one’s life, based on what one brings to the others life mentally or emotionally.

Drama is not tolerated. Positive vibes only.

I wash my hands of anything or anyone negative, as I approach my 50 😅😅 ,

There are too many amazing people in this world to follow for growth and inspiration.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Some are just clueless how precious life truly is and take for granted the people around them.

Our lives is of our own making.

Don’t like it? Fix it, Change it, and evolve.

Love it? Then that is super amazing! Feels good doesn’t it?!

Choosing to let no one run your life but you?Now that is true freedom!! Be your own Boss.

Be free and happy to be who we choose to be and AROUND who we choose to be!

Our Life.

Our choices.

Anyone who judges us for it? So 🤷🏻

Those people have their own problems. And last I looked, judgmental humans are usually the most miserable,and toxic.

Bye!

We still move on, smile, and enjoy who we are and those who truly love us😊

As always

Written with Love,

Mama Friday ❤

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A Father Should Be…

AirBrush_20180315182649I know not everyone has an excellent father for their Son.

I know not everyones baby daddy pays half of everything their child does or more.( And on time)

I know not everyone gets to have a friendly co parenting situation

I know a lot of kids have to grow up hearing a lot of shit from one parent about another.

I know some of us have moms who had to do it all ( thank you Mommy for showing me how to survive and love )

I do NOT have to do it alllll cause Kaenin’s father is front and center to give his son everything he needs, to assist in providing an amazing future for our boy, not only financially but mentally as well. ( the most important part)

I could not have chosen a better man for the role as Kaenin’s father.

I know how truly blessed I am.

I know.

Thank you Courtland Miller , beause of you, Kaenin will know how to be there for his children, as a good father should, regardless of any situation…. YOU HAVE DONE GREAT C!!

Proud of you 👅And so Happy for our Son!

As always,

Written with love

Mama Friday ❤

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Tatted humans stereotypes DEBUNKED

Mama’s new rant for blog:) ( This one is personal. Obviously 😅)

Tatted humans stereotypes DEBUNKED by yours truly 😅

Trouble makers : ZERO criminal record in 46 years

Driving Record is CLEAN 46 years…Not even 1 speeding ticket. ( how many y’all judgemental fuks got DUI’s? Cheat on your spouse or abuse substances ( vicodine or adderral soccer mom’s included 😉) or look at others flesh…or or or….

Sluts : I do not even date 😅😅 damn sure do , do myself often tho😎

Uneducated: Almost five Years of College , graduated Bachelors of Science in Psychology ( takes Longer than BA, look it up )

Licensed in Cosmetology in TWO states

Certified NESTA PT ( look it up)

Countless courses for personal development and self education

Trouble home and kids: SON doesn’t drink or do drugs. Zero criminal record. Athlete annnnnnd Honor student.

Shacks up with men: Live by my damn self takes care of a grown ass man child who has his own car AND four furry babies.

Career:

A full time Mother first ( I do all the work, no nanny, no babysitters, no bullshit for my Son to endure cause I made damn sure I took care of him 24/7 or daddy:)

Entrepreneur: I have my own damn empire being built, around my own damn name, that I made for myself Internationally as a fitness cover model starting 97 😘 ( Links in Bio on pro page and still more to come )

Professional Negotiator for BlackDot Wireless AVP with zero degree and outsold the damn company. Position became obsolete ( look it up)

Writer , Author , Photographer, YouTuber, Vlogger, and Social Media Expert.

Now fuk y’all that judge ink or people in general…you are the one’s too scared of the pain. That is my judgement on You. Pussies ( sorry that was wrong, but funny) 🙊 😅👊🏽

Live and let live aka Shut the fuk up

🖐🏽 bye.

P.S. you may try to hate me for this blog rant, but you will NEVER forget me. #missionaccomplished

Xoxo, ❤

Mama Friday 🙂 aka Me, Tara Caballero

Love Thyself

It is as simple as this… Read my words of encouragement, then read it again, and soon you will understand (if you don’t already). Make 2017 a great year and most importantly…. Love Thyself! Thank you for reading my thoughts this past year in 2016. May you future be as bright as your last sunny day.

My New Year resolution is ” to write more in 2017 and to help to teach others what I have already learned “.  

As always,

written with Love,

Mama Friday ❤

Gym Boredom? (10 Alternative Tips to Stay Fit plus Bonus!)

Sick of the gym? Yes, I feel your pain. Especially around this time of the year, who the heck wants to be stuck in a gym. So here are some quick tips on what one can do instead. Obviously, if you are training for a competition then this is not for you, BUT, if you are just trying to keep your hard work and make it fun? Then go ahead and add a few of these tips into your mix and mix up the monotony.

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I’ve been in and out of the gym since the age of 15 and it does get redundant. I know! OK…Let’s Go!

#1 Sex: Yup, I said sex and we have all read the articles that sex burns calories. My point to though, is you do not have to have a partner in order to burn calories through sex. One can do this all by oneself, burn calories while participating in the effort of the act of self-sexing then, in turn, the Orgasms are excellent for the abs. (Work them pelvic floor muscles ladies! w/ Kegal Exercises )

#2: Just Move: Believe me there is something to be said for not sitting down. Keep yourself busy throughout your day and do it on purpose. Example: If you sit down in front of the television to text someone? Get up, pace, and text that someone. The point is to just keep moving. The calories burn as long as you move! (yes I know they burn sitting too but way less, so move your rears)

#3: Play with Your Kids: Sure there are a million things you need to do, however, the value of playing with your kids are of plenty. A. You burn more calories. B. You make your kids happy. C. You are teaching them excellent parenting skills for their future and how they should treat their own kids. (last night my son and I played in our pool. The saddest thing was watching a child play by himself while his parent sat just watching. So sad not to mention he could use some exercising himself)

#4 Pool: Just find water whether it is a community pool (parks or YMCA) ocean, lake, or anything equivalent outside or inside. Just get in the water because I promise you once you are in, you will feel amazing when you are done. Watch some YouTube’s on water workouts or even join a water workout near you. Swim, play, and just try new things in the water. As long as you aren’t planting your rear on a floating device? You will burn more calories, although, you can still be better off on a floating device if you don’t have snacks in the pool. At least you won’t be eating aimlessly:)

#5 House Clean: Turn on your favorite music and start cleaning your house! Laundry! Dance while you work! Find projects in your home that you want to get done and do them because you will burn calories and be too busy to eat. Simple. And it is the best feeling when you go to sleep and wake up to your amazing efforts from the day before. I promise you that feeling of “pride of your own home” is an excellent serotonin boost (natural happy chemicals one’s brain releases)

#6 Walks Outside: This is my favorite because the time goes by very quickly regardless if you are alone with music in your ears or with a friend. You can keep up the speed for more intense calorie burning. Wear sunscreen and absorb the joys of your surroundings. Another benefit to long walks is one will sleep so much better that night. (if you have any issues sleeping) It also helps me with my nagging back issue that often comes back to haunt me. Before too long you can make your walks longer and add variety to them. I know there are YouTube’s that speak to walking workouts too. I love to walk and talk with my friends, catch up, and all of a sudden it is two hours later.We have put in five miles without realizing it! We are all from different fitness levels too so just move your body! Walk. (try walking during your 30-minute lunch break, daily, and that will all add up too)

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#7 Online Challenges: What I mean by this are the various challenges that are online that have one do specific amount of effort, for each day, for that specific challenge. Example: The squat challenge, ab challenge, or the push-up challenge. Google for specifics. I have done quite a few of them. I especially loved the pushup challenge I did with my son. #22pushups for #22days to support the 22 Vets that commit suicide daily because of PTSD. (our videos are on my Instagram @tara_caballero_official_ #tcsonoutreachgivingmission

 

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#8 Furry Kids: Play with your dogs, cats, horses, pigs, snakes, turtles, rats, (yes rats, I had two when I was a kid lol), or basically whatever your choice of pets are. Take the canines for their walks, play ball with them, and just give them physical attention. (do push-ups and sites with them) You will smile, you will burn calories, and they will be full of joy because you show your pets love.

#9: Yard Work: If you have a yard then I am sure there’s something out there you would love to change, fix, enhance, or just clean up. I know these things are a pain to start, however, once you get started you know you can stop. Lol So get it out there and start something, keep moving, and feel great about yourself when you see what amazing work you did when you come home the next day.

#10 Car Workout: Yes, car, why not tense all your muscles specifically focusing on individual muscles, as you drive. You can flex your abs, hold them for ten seconds, and release. Same with your glutes, while you drive. This effort does burn calories more than just sitting there while you travel AND it can help you to keep the muscles toned that you have tried so hard to attain.

BONUS!

#11: At the Office: When I worked in an office, while at my cubicle, I removed my chair, and did my work standing. I also did squats at my desk because at one point I realized my rear was beginning to shape to the size of my chair. Oh hell no! So I removed my chair and put it in the corner, and just kept moving. Sure I may have looked like a fool but after a certain age, you are no longer concerned with what others think. do what is bets for YOU. As they say ” if there is a will, there is a way ”

I hope this helps at least one of y’all out there.

Written with Love,

Mama Friday ❤