Soft Porn Star in the Family

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First of all, I have no idea what one would categorize me as, but I am a one woman show and I do me and me only. So Porn, Soft Porn, Cam girl , Online Influencer, or or I do not concern myself with the small stuff because everyone has a different definition of what I do depending on ones own ideas of the work. Call it what you will. I am the BOSS. I call it a business and I am an actress. Professional Modeling is my professional background but when it comes time to perform in my adult work, to make that bank, then I turn on the performer in me, morph into TC, just do my job, and do it really well 😎 since 1999

I am addressing this once and it will be the last time.Β  I understand everyone will think as they see fit and we are all responsible for our own feelings. Just know, though, everything happens for a reason. Small minds think small. My mind is large and open for more.

My Aunt Dar once told me ” never forget where you came from” when I left to LA to better my life and now that makes more sense than ever.

I came from dysfunctional parenting. Abusive Relationships. Molestation from my Mom’s Foster brother. I came from a childhood of mentally abusive babysitters.

I came from an environment of racism and cheaters. I came from abandonment issues.

I came from abusive relationships where my mom fought constantly , I watched her get choked, punched and the cops did nothing. I came from that stopping when I took a knife to the man to protect my mom. I was 15!

I came from alcoholic family. I came from a life of moving home to home, school to school and living with My mothers boyfriends so life could be easier. I came from a woman who did everything and anything she could for me but had no education so all she could do is kill her self in multiple dead end jobs while she got $100 for child support. I came from growing up in bars and shooting pool at age 7. I came from playing sports but no parents to watch me. Mom had to work.

I came from a woman who would give her last dime to anyone and had 7 dogs cause she couldn’t tell me no. I came from a childhood where I knew the school counselor better than my own dad cause he would help me through the days when I was trying to cope with my mom being abused. He was the male role model for me all through highschool.

My Mom is the best thing I did come from cause she was one strong bish and so am I.

I came from being a sister to multiple siblings with multiple moms so we all just basically existed.

I came from being a sister to my other favorite person in the world. My brother Rob.

I came from laughter and music which is how I survived my moms death when she died of cancer when I was 25. I was dead to the world for five years. Until I came to California and finally began to morn and heal.

I came from toxic environments and toxic people surrounding me. I came from Baltimore where I have been robbed, left a 12 to watch another kid only to wake up to the house being robbed and I ,once again, grabbed a knife, and ran down to protect the little girl and get help. I came from being bullied in school cause I was always the new kid. I came from being punched in the face by my boyfriend and no one standing up for me. I came from standing up for myself cause I am the best man I know. Then I became a fighter myself.

I came from being married three times just like my dad.I came from the understanding that if marriage isn’t fun anymore you just cheat, leave, and get divorce.

I came from having some of the best friends ever cause Baltimore breeds loyalty. That I love about where I came from.

I came from my mom teaching me faith. That is what has saved me time and time again.

I came from respect and honor to men in uniform. I came from sneaking to date African American men and going to a black church that made me feel safe and loved. Thanks Lachelle

So since we now know a little more where Tara truly came from we might try to understand how FAR I have truly come.

To my family and friends, You don’t have to like what I do or who I am in this world, that’s your sin to judge and you’ll pay for.

Just know, I am raising my boy the way I want to, which means ,in person, front and center from education to playing basketball with him every day. I do everything a mother should , I do everything my Mom Couldn’t do for me and more over, everything she wished she could. I bought my Son’s first car as I said I would and that a parent should do.

I was there for every 1st , my son had. I am there cause I can be cause the job you all talk so much shyt about is the same job that makes my life as a mother so amazing and I know my son is safe cause he is with ME. The job you all trash, has helped me since 2002 so get over it! Or don’t. I see the woman I have become. Too bad you haven’t. But none of that matters cause one person loves me regardless and thinks I am Gods gift to his life. That is my Son. I can do no wrong.

Oh and God. I think I am one of his favorites.🀷🏻

I came from lack of education. Age 36 I began self education. Age 40 I enrolled in college. Age 45 I graduated with my Bachelor’s Of Science in Psychology. I am now 46

My Son is smart enough to know it is a job and mind you,Β  he grew up in a lifestyle that my fame and name awarded us. He knows we are not a conventional family.Β  He also knows God. He also knows it is OK to not be what others want us to be. He sees the struggle. Son knows.

I came from wanting to go to college but had no help. You see, I came from super sweet experiences with my mom and grandma , I came from a family who is constantly fighting with each other and a dad who literally said he was divorcing me when I told him I was having an African American baby, yet I forgave after two years .

I love where I came from , Baltimore, cause it prepared me to be the amazing mom I am today and a fighter, protector. It prepared me to be the man and the woman so I don’t have to settle EVER. Other than that, my life was hell quite often but I never knew it then. After five years of Psychology and finding myself spiritually and mentally, now I know how truly screwed up and dysfunctional where I come from, truly is. Last, making a living, in the adult entertainment world, is hard daily hustle that I do because A. I am a professional model and entertainer from HOME, B. I have all the Time in the world for my son. C. I don’t have a boss, I am the BOSS. I run my own life.I run all my businesses ( I have five platforms and 12 social medias..That is a job in itself. )

I run my time. I run my own life. I provide for my family.

And I make what I need, right from the safety and comfort of my own home, car, or beach πŸ€·πŸ»πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ’―Β #sorrynotsorry

Thank you for reading.

As Always,

Written with Love

Mama Friday ❀

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Love The Way You Lie…

1. Talk WAY too much

Example: When one asks a simple question about the subject of concern, the liar will go on and on without hesitation to catch one’s breath aka they RAMBLE

2. Use reverse Psychology

EXAMPLE: The liar will reverse the conversation to reverse the roles as defendant, hence to put oneself in the role of asking the questions, rather than be the one who is suppose to answer the questions.

The liar will want the spotlight on the person that they lied to rather than, be put on the spot themselves.

The liar will flare up with anger and ask ” what about you, you ….did this ….said that…why you asking me, how about you…etc…

3. Avoid

Example: Avoid eye contact.

Avoid answering the question. ( My boss just walked in, I have to call you back)

Avoid occupying the same space (sleep on the couch rather than get into bed and have to explain why one just got in at 3am)

4. Overcompensate to make ammends ( be Extra )

Example: The liar will Be Extra nice or sexual

Give Extra

Do Extra

Say Extra

5. Do whatever it takes to be able to maintain one’s lies

Example: Call so and so if you don’t believe me. ( bluff tactic)

Or assign a wing man or women to back up one’s Lie’s.

6. Eventually get caught

7. Lie again cause they CAN

8. Doubt everyone else cause the guilty behave guilty.

9. Get Angry when called out:

Example: The liar will rant, raise hands, yell, or make a scene to difuse the accuser with intimidating behavior.

10. Prey on the weak and insecure

A liar feeds on a endless believer, forgiver, and those who do not value themselves as much as the one’s who will not stand for the repetitious nonsense.

Those who live for the liar, rather for one’s own quality of life.

In my opinion, we are all responsible for our own emotions and how we let others affect our lives.

We may not know at first what we are dealing with, therefore we are innocent and need assistance.

Once we KNOW what we are dealing with, have the knowledge, and the ability to understand the person that is lying,THEN it is up to us to stand up for ourselves.

We need to seek the help we need, make better choices for our own quality of life, and the lives we are directly responsible for.

WE ARE OF VALUE.

YOU Are of Value.

I Am of Value

As always,

Written with ❀

Mama Friday ❀

P.S. ( interesting article )

A sociopath is typically defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. A sociopath is often goal-oriented (i.e., lying is focusedβ€”it is done to get one’s way). Sociopaths have little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others. Sociopaths are often charming and charismatic, but they use their talented social skills in manipulative and self-centered ways (see lovefraud, for more on sociopaths)

https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/lying-and-deception/confronting-a-partner/compulsive-lying/types-of-liars.html

Children First!

Picking up where someone leaves off, until they can pick up again, doesn’t stop at divorce or a break up.

Not if you wish to set a good example to your child or children, on how to be a decent human being and family man/woman.

Co-parenting is about creating a successful environment for our kids so that they can be successful in life and their relationships.

We as parents are responsible for their well-being

BOTH MENTALLY AND physically…..

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The key part is to focus on your kids and forget your own desires, wants, and needs for a while.

Thank you Courtland Miller for the unwaivering support and most important; the communication. We have each others back regardless! Our Son is first. Always.

Screw ego. Screw pride. Screw anyone else who tries to screw that up 🀷🏻

A million women and men in this world so they can wait, if they don’t understand. We have ONE chance and only 18 years to SHOW our child/children, how to be a decent human being and good family man/woman.

But what do I know, I am only speaking out of 16 years of current experience , before that;18 years of dysfunctional co-parenting from my parents, and as of recently, five years education on human behavior 🀷🏻 ( Bachelor’s of Science in Psychology )

( wrote this today for my blog as a reflection of my child hood ,where things went wrong, and how awesome today was for yet another amazing co-parenting colaboration with my Son’s father and I.

As always,

Written with love,

Mama Friday ❀

Momma & Son Losing that Holiday Fat!

TC & Son’s ” Spring Back Into Shape ” Mission

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Little by Little, Son and I are making little changes to our diet, each week, and seeing excellent results already.

As we adjust to our new eating habits I thought I’d might share with all just in case someone else is in a challenge with their weight right now.

This weeks changes are:

Fresh squeezed grapefruits instead of oranges this week. Less sugar sure, but, moreover, fat burning magic in those grapefruits!

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We starting eating apples daily again.

The lemons are for cleansing. ( check my blog for more info on that one:)

Less carbs ( cut out most Pasta and most cheese for now)

So far our energy is much higher, K’s skin is clearing up:) and that little midsection we developed, is already flattening out. ( we do an ab app together often )

Son’s swimming or running along with the normal basketball activity.

Momma’s grilling meats and we cut out most fried food.

Muscle has memory so all those years we’ve put in the work together with pushups, situps, and weight work, is now already benefiting Kaenin at age 16. K’s discipline and will power, is why these changes show so swiftly for him.

I have the same exact results. Even at 46.

No matter what your age, if you sit most of the time, eat unhealthy, feed your emotions with junk,

THEN you get fat.

If you move your body more often and clean up your nutrition

THEN you will see that fat dissapear πŸ™‚

Not Rocket Science. It is as simple as conscious, perseverant, consistent, and disciplined real EFFORT.

GREAT JOB SON!

P.S. Apple juice is for my greens and yes, Organic is better. I’m on a budget so I’ll live this week 🀷🏻

As Always Written With Love,

Mama Friday ❀

A Grandmother’s Love

A Grandmothers Love is never defined by blood.

It is action.

I dedicate this next piece to Dorothy M.Nienow (aka Gma Nienow ❀)

PhotoGrid_1523386191508Dorothy Nienow has been my stand in Mother since 1999 ( my mom passed when I was 25) and Dorothy is the only other Grandmother my Son truly knows, hands on. Gma Nienow is one of two, most amazing women I know. ( Mama Mary is the other one)

Today is about Gma Nienow cause I just saw your debut on TV! Wow! You look soΒ  beautiful!

I just want to say that your are the epitome of what a grandmother should be. You are kind, full of joy, extremely thoughtful, supportive, caring, nonjudgmental, kind to everyone, giving, and always consistent with Kaenin.

Because of you, Kaenin understands blood isn’t always the perfect example of family, however, Constance is.

Constantly patient. Constantly encouraging. Constantly supporting. Constantingly loving. Constant dedication. Constant understanding. Constant smile. (I have never heard this woman raise her voice in 19 years!) Constant communication with exceptance of nothing in return.

Kaenin loves you because of you. Kaenin had a choice.Β  Kaenin always chose you. Example: if I ask him, so ,you want some amazing things for your Christmas, your Birthday, OR do you want me to fly Gma Nienow in?

Kaenin always chose you!!

GMA Nienow has been with K since day 1. Unable to travel as much now, as she used to be with us ( Gma is from Oregon ) we talk, facetime, and FB.

Gma is still busy with a full time job as a social worker, producing TV shows with her son David, assisting so many loved ones around her (as a nurse), and answering all my calls to listen to my nonsense πŸ˜…

A true Angel.

Gma flew from Oregon often and at some point, I had Mon here almost every month πŸ˜‚ Thank you for Sharing David!

When Gma Nienow arrived, I became obsolete Haha!

It was all about Kaenin. I loved that! And I love you for that.

I just want you to know, Mom, that you are the best thing that ever happened to and for my Son. Thank you for Showing my Son what amazing uncondional love truly feels likes; and LOOKS like.

We miss you. We are so proud you. And I am beyond grateful that God blessed my Son with such an amazing example of what an amazing human can be like, such as his Gma Nienow.I bet Gma Juanita, in heaven, is very grateful too.

We Love You!

As always Written with Love,

Mama Friday ❀

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Toxic People Gots to Go !

One can only help toxic people so much or for so long.

We are all responsible for our own emotions.

Toxic individuals, content with their own toxic behaviors,Β  will never change.

We all deserve quality of life. Some just don’t want it. I sure as hell do and I shall have it regardless …only took me 46 years to learn it πŸ˜…

One thing I have learned, is people will do for THEM, until they need you, and those of us who are super giving and have empathy; are the targets. Just say NO.

And then one grow’s up mentally, makes bigger and better decisions for other humans to be in or out of one’s life, based on what one brings to the others life mentally or emotionally.

Drama is not tolerated. Positive vibes only.

I wash my hands of anything or anyone negative, as I approach my 50 πŸ˜…πŸ˜… ,

There are too many amazing people in this world to follow for growth and inspiration.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Some are just clueless how precious life truly is and take for granted the people around them.

Our lives is of our own making.

Don’t like it? Fix it, Change it, and evolve.

Love it? Then that is super amazing! Feels good doesn’t it?!

Choosing to let no one run your life but you?Now that is true freedom!! Be your own Boss.

Be free and happy to be who we choose to be and AROUND who we choose to be!

Our Life.

Our choices.

Anyone who judges us for it? So 🀷🏻

Those people have their own problems. And last I looked, judgmental humans are usually the most miserable,and toxic.

Bye!

We still move on, smile, and enjoy who we are and those who truly love us😊

As always

Written with Love,

Mama Friday ❀

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A Father Should Be…

AirBrush_20180315182649I know not everyone has an excellent father for their Son.

I know not everyones baby daddy pays half of everything their child does or more.( And on time)

I know not everyone gets to have a friendly co parenting situation

I know a lot of kids have to grow up hearing a lot of shit from one parent about another.

I know some of us have moms who had to do it all ( thank you Mommy for showing me how to survive and love )

I do NOT have to do it alllll cause Kaenin’s father is front and center to give his son everything he needs, to assist in providing an amazing future for our boy, not only financially but mentally as well. ( the most important part)

I could not have chosen a better man for the role as Kaenin’s father.

I know how truly blessed I am.

I know.

Thank you Courtland Miller , beause of you, Kaenin will know how to be there for his children, as a good father should, regardless of any situation…. YOU HAVE DONE GREAT C!!

Proud of you πŸ‘…And so Happy for our Son!

As always,

Written with love

Mama Friday ❀

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Tatted humans stereotypes DEBUNKED

Mama’s new rant for blog:) ( This one is personal. Obviously πŸ˜…)

Tatted humans stereotypes DEBUNKED by yours truly πŸ˜…

Trouble makers : ZERO criminal record in 46 years

Driving Record is CLEAN 46 years…Not even 1 speeding ticket. ( how many y’all judgemental fuks got DUI’s? Cheat on your spouse or abuse substances ( vicodine or adderral soccer mom’s included πŸ˜‰) or look at others flesh…or or or….

Sluts : I do not even date πŸ˜…πŸ˜… damn sure do , do myself often tho😎

Uneducated: Almost five Years of College , graduated Bachelors of Science in Psychology ( takes Longer than BA, look it up )

Licensed in Cosmetology in TWO states

Certified NESTA PT ( look it up)

Countless courses for personal development and self education

Trouble home and kids: SON doesn’t drink or do drugs. Zero criminal record. Athlete annnnnnd Honor student.

Shacks up with men: Live by my damn self takes care of a grown ass man child who has his own car AND four furry babies.

Career:

A full time Mother first ( I do all the work, no nanny, no babysitters, no bullshit for my Son to endure cause I made damn sure I took care of him 24/7 or daddy:)

Entrepreneur: I have my own damn empire being built, around my own damn name, that I made for myself Internationally as a fitness cover model starting 97 😘 ( Links in Bio on pro page and still more to come )

Professional Negotiator for BlackDot Wireless AVP with zero degree and outsold the damn company. Position became obsolete ( look it up)

Writer , Author , Photographer, YouTuber, Vlogger, and Social Media Expert.

Now fuk y’all that judge ink or people in general…you are the one’s too scared of the pain. That is my judgement on You. Pussies ( sorry that was wrong, but funny) πŸ™Š πŸ˜…πŸ‘ŠπŸ½

Live and let live aka Shut the fuk up

πŸ–πŸ½ bye.

P.S. you may try to hate me for this blog rant, but you will NEVER forget me. #missionaccomplished

Xoxo, ❀

Mama Friday πŸ™‚ aka Me, Tara Caballero

Love Thyself

It is as simple as this… Read my words of encouragement, then read it again, and soon you will understand (if you don’t already). Make 2017 a great year and most importantly…. Love Thyself! Thank you for reading my thoughts this past year in 2016. May you future be as bright as your last sunny day.

My New Year resolution is ” to write more in 2017 and to help to teach others what I have already learned “. Β 

As always,

written with Love,

Mama Friday ❀